diff --git a/CHANGESTODO b/CHANGESTODO
index ce022d6..b6d58e1 100644
--- a/CHANGESTODO
+++ b/CHANGESTODO
@@ -24,6 +24,9 @@ ________________________________________________________________________
 
 - xmpp friendships for local xmpp clients (see /show in and out)
 
+- when talking to strangers, mark them somehow so we get to see answers!
+  (in particular via XMPP)
+
 - we should add warnings about browsers that arent mozilla compatible but claim to be
      <<< did i recently fix that with browsercap?